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You’re Not My Friend
Illustrated Answers to Questions About Young Children’s Challenging
by Betsy Evans, M. Ed
child is excluded from play by others and she yells, “You’re Not My
Friend Anymore!” and so begins the dilemma for the adults listening
in as they wonder how to respond to such hurtful interactions and
conflicts. You’re Not My Friend Anymore! Illustrated Answers
to Questions About Young Children’s Challenging Behaviors (HighScope
Press, 2009) by Betsy Evans, M. Ed provides quick and clear strategies
for supporting children with a six-step process that will help them to
solve problems on their own. The process is illustrated through:
21 stories of actual conflicts, depicting a typical response to the
conflict, followed by the alternative problem-solving response that
Discussion of exclusion, biting, hitting, aggressive explosions,
turn-taking, “back talk”, timeout, as well as conflicts between older
and younger children with differing abilities.
Questions and answers about each of the illustrated stories that were
drawn from real questions from parents and teachers about these
Discussion of why such an approach is beneficial to children and
Discussion points for parents and teachers as they consider the
complex issues presented by the challenging behaviors of young
As this problem-solving process is illustrated and discussed in the
book, parents and teachers will understand how to
encourage communication skills,
respectful cooperation, and
emotional growth in toddlers, preschoolers, and school-aged children.
You Can't Come to My
Resolution With Young Children
Revised Edition coming soon!
conflicts over toys, space, and friendship create many challenges for
teachers and parents. This book presents a useful and effective
six-step mediation process adults can use to support young children at
these tense and emotional times. It includes more than 50 actual
stories of conflict experiences from preschools, nursery schools, Head
Start centers, elementary schools, and homes. Through these
stories and the accompanying photos of conflict resolution in action,
readers can "see and hear" real children resolving disputes
successfully, guided by adults using the six-step process. Using
this book as a guide, teachers and parents will have the strategies in
hand to make the most of these valuable learning opportunities, whether
the children they are caring for are toddlers, preschoolers, or
“I Know What’s Next!” Preschool Transitions Without Tears or
Turmoil, by Betsy Evans
can create stress for both adults and children. Reduce the number of
transition conflicts in your program by viewing these “between times” as
opportunities for fun and learning. This book provides guidelines,
strategies, and a wide variety of songs, games, and educational
experiences to be used during drop-off and pick-up times, during daily
routine transitions, meals, naps, cleanup, and even during the
transition from preschool to kindergarten. Also offered are parent
handouts, real-life transition scenarios, photos, and illustrations that
depict contrasting approaches to transitions.
I Want All the Turns!
Color, 90 minutes
In all early childhood programs, children have conflicts over space, materials and friendships. Learning how to find solutions that work for everyone is an important educational opportunity for young children.
This three-part DVD program shows unstaged examples of preschoolers who are developing essential communication, empathy, and negotiating skills. The problem-solving process they are learning – with their teachers' guidance and support – fosters social, language, and cognitive abilities they will use throughout their lives. Includes a special section on preventing bullying. The diverse settings shown include two Head Start programs, the HighScope Demonstration Preschool, and a nonpublic school serving children with disabilities.
Responding to Problems and Conflicts
grabbing toys, crying, fighting—problems are bound to happen when very
young children share materials and play space.
This 40-minute video shows
both younger and older babies and toddlers in several High/Scope
infant-toddler settings and the adults who care for them. Filled
with strategies caregivers can use to respond sensitively and positively
to children's social conflicts, the video also covers ways to keep
conflict to a minimum by creating a warm and play-filled environment.
Included are strategies for
problem prevention, positive limit-setting, and resolving conflicts—strategies that help children begin to develop important social,
language, and reasoning abilities. With this support at a very
early age, children are on their way to becoming cooperative and caring
Supporting Children in
and disputes—over materials, space, and playmates—are a normal part
of the day in every preschool center. Though challenging for
adults, such conflicts offer children important opportunities for
learning. This video program describes six problem-solving steps
that adults can use to help children resolve conflicts successfully. Through this problem-solving process, children learn social, language,
and cognitive skills that they will use throughout their lives. The video shows children in a New York City Head Start Center and in the
High/Scope Demonstration Preschool Classroom in Ypsilanti, Michigan, as
they resolve actual conflicts with the help of their teachers.
in Resolving Conflicts Wall Chart
A handy reference tool! Hang
this poster in your classroom to help you remember these six steps to
successfully resolving conflicts as you work with children.
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